Published in Songstories·3 days ago‘Bitch’: Realizing I Don’t Have to Be Just One ThingI turned up the volume as I pulled into my high school’s parking lot. With Meredith Brooks singing “I’m a bitch, I’m a lover!” at the top of her lungs, I lifted my chin slightly and tried to appear as confident as I wanted people to believe I was…Music Memoir4 min read
May 8Why I Dance with “Bad” DancersTwo guys were chatting after Zumba class about the blues dancing scene at a local bar. One was an experienced social dancer and the other unsure about where to even put his hands on a potential dance partner. The experienced one asked if I would help him demonstrate the basics…Dance5 min read
Apr 16Everyone’s Doing the Best They CanI belong to a fitness accountability group and earlier this week, I posed a question. I wanted to know how the others in the group managed their workouts when Life got really crazy, like it has been for me this month. They seemed to be so much better at doing…Personal Development4 min read
Apr 10Lessons at Age 39I had a birthday a week and a half ago. Birthdays are a time to reflect on my life over the past year, and this particular birthday, I found myself reflecting on the past decade. …Life Lessons6 min read
Mar 6Going with the Flow is ScaryWe plan, God laughs. -Yiddish proverb It’s March already, and while I’m not surprised that there is still a foot of snow on the ground here in Maine, I am surprised and disappointed that I’m not back to taking ballroom dance lessons. I shouldn’t be surprised because I was there…Dance5 min read
Feb 20Is the Medal Worth the Long-Term Damage?The conclusion of the women’s figure skating event at the 2022 Winter Olympic Games in Beijing once again highlights the utter lack of care given to athletes’ physical and mental health for the sake of the win. Two out of three Russian skaters broke down sobbing as the results were…Athletes5 min read
Jan 19Hard Work Does Not Require Personal SufferingSecond, fourth, plié, turn. Second, fourth, plié, turn. I repeated this sequence over and over while my ballet teacher chanted it over the music. Each time, I pointed my foot out to the side (second), moved it about a foot behind my other foot while maintaining turnout (fourth), bent both…Hustle Culture5 min read
Published in Story Second Chances·Jan 4Revisiting “Choose Your Own Adventure”I originally wrote Choose Your Own Adventure for my blog, The Girl with the Tree Tattoo, which primarily caters to ballroom dancers who got their start as adults. Topics focus on the mental and emotional aspects of the adult ballroom dancer journey. …Writing2 min read
Jan 1Life is Strange, Beautiful and HeartbreakingWater drips from the snowy roofline as the sun slowly warms the air to above freezing. Never did I ever think I’d look at a high temperature of 34 degrees Fahrenheit and think “not bad!” There are a lot of things I never thought would happen that did happen in…New Year6 min read
Nov 21, 2021I Won a Ballroom Dance World Champion Title in a Used DressI’ve been thinking about how many different paths our dance journeys can take, even when the final destination is the same, such as a competition. We often look for a blueprint or a map to show us the way to our goals. A champion title in ballroom, for example…Ballroom Dance5 min read